How You Feel About Money Affects How Much You Have
February 23rd, 2007 by TatmanHave you ever noticed that the people with the most entitlement issues have the least amount of money? My own entitlement issues were Legendary, I kid not. I was sure the world owed me something for my troubles and if it didn’t give it to me, I was planning on taking it.
A mentor soon half-scoffed that I wasn’t owed anything, by anyone.
At first it was offensive that he thought that about me. Then when soul-searching revealed that it was true, that I felt I deserved or was owed some kind of a break because of the hard times I had in my life, it made me take a look at myself. That’s when I thought about working for it harder than I ever had before.
It’s painful to admit, but I was in a situation where I lawfully could have gone on public assistance or social security. This was post-entitlement me though, and I couldn’t bring myself to take a hand-out.
My money issues went so much deeper than that, though.
When I finally worked my way to what I started to believe was this great income, I felt like I didn’t deserve it. I thought it was too easy. All this time, money was coming to me at an inverse proportion to how hard I had to physically work. The less laborious it was, the easier and more rapidly money came to me.
I just couldn’t handle it.
Of course, I started to sabotage myself. I overspent in a period that should have put me on the road to wealth. I rested on my laurels when I should have kept working. It eventually stopped coming in more and more slowly and I was thrown into a panic.
The truth of the matter is that money has a certain type of energy. I promise I’m not going to get too touchy-feely on you. Here’s something to think about along those lines instead.
Broke people congregate together. Rich people try to hang out with people richer and smarter than them so they can learn.
Broke people hoard knowledge. The rich pass knowledge down.
Broke people complain about how much money they don’t have. Rich people talk about what they’re going to do with money they haven’t even made yet, then they go get it.
Broke people hoard pennies rather than saving intelligently. While a rich person isn’t a frivolous spender, they don’t jump over dollars to pick up dimes.
Broke people hate people who are rich and think that they owe them something. And yet it’s the rich people who were always the most willing to help me out when I was broke.
Yet, when a broke person pulls away from the pack and begins to think differently, and re-evaluate how to earn, and gets out of their own way, money seems to rain out of the sky for them, even more than for those sgment of rich people who are born rich and take it for granted.
If you want to be rich - or better yet wealthy - really think about how you feel about money. What did you learn from your parents? Are you tight-fisted or addicted to spending? Why?
Resolve your money issues now while you don’t have much, and when you get money, you’ll keep it.
The alternative is Not fun.
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February 23rd, 2007 at 9:26 am
Thank you for adding me to your blogroll.
Richness begets richness - I can vouch for that. Very honest post - I can see myself in a few places there
February 23rd, 2007 at 11:16 am
Tat,
“Tat” sounds bloody Chinese. OK, so say you’re just like me but you’ve
left out some :
-Truly wealthy people seldom show out their wealth by the look. It’s
those who are broke “pretend” to look “wealthy”. I’ve seen really broke
guys going around in BMW’s and Rolex watches, spending which credit cards
which couldn’t go through $15 bill. And I’ve known many wealthy guys
who don’t even wear a watch and driving around in 10 years’ old.
-Broke guys don’t hate rich fellows. They actually dying to be in the
company of wealthy people yet they can’t ! Why ? They have got lousy
smelly “airs” !
Man, I can tell you–all the money in the world can’t make you happier !
Yes, I prefer to have money rather than not having. So I’m not hypocratic. But “how much” is “enough” ? It’s all relative to how you
live and how you see or think about “your happy world”.
At 59 I’m able to tell you that money ISN’T everything. I’m much poorer now than say 10 years ago. But I’m a much happier person now
than when I’d a lot of money before the Asian Financial Crisis in 1997
and then the dotCom Bust in 2000.
You may ask me : Why are you going online to do Internet Marketing ?
I’ll give you an answer in April when I know exactly who the hell
you are.
Chee
February 23rd, 2007 at 5:43 pm
Hey Listerate,
I consider it part of my community service to add good blogs to my blogroll, so it’s like I should be thanking you.
Chee,
I don’t have the honor of being Chinese, but I just realized how true your words are.
And that’s really a good one that I forgot. Most of the millionaires I know live like regular people but slightly better. You’re so right about money and happiness too. I could have gotten a much better deal, financially, with the transfer of ownership of my company. I didn’t think the company that made the biggest offer was going to treat my clients ethically, so I went another way. Less money in the end, but much more worth it.
As far as broke people hating rich people - maybe I’ve got a different take because I’m an American, and I see how we treat our rich people, and remember hating people for having money, and how I used to treat them, and feel that they owed me something.
I do agree with you, 100%, that broke people REALLY want to be rich - only without expending the effort it takes.
Isn’t it funny how much easier it is to become wealthier once you make up your mind to get out of your own way? In the end it’s a simple equation - sell something people want at a profit. The end.
But we make it so much harder than it has to be. Man this comment is like a new blog post!
I’ll zip it and just leave you with my thanks for your comments, both of you. Happy Friday.
February 24th, 2007 at 12:11 am
Tat,
I don’t have much more to say. Money is good (I’ve yet to meet someone
who hates money). You don’t have to have all the money in the world but you must have money (some monies, to keep you alive).
BTW,”Tat” is a nice Chinese name, which literally means “prosperous”.
And “Tatman”=50 % Chinese + 50% English (or American, whatever)
That is to say : Tat-man = A Prosperous Man !
Sounds good for you eh ?
You’ve picked this pen-name…so to say, you’ll be in good shape, my boy.
13 hours of time difference, yours Vs mine if you’re EST (16 hours-PST).
It’s Saturday afternoon here.
Have a good weekend.
Chee
March 4th, 2007 at 4:29 pm
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